Saturday, January 9, 2010

My Friend Tee Y

This week my good friend Ty or (Mr. Tee Y) as the Ugandans called him - came to visit. Ty and I got tight in youth group because we laughed at the same stupid stuff while managing to still take things deep. If you've ever seen our grad videos, you know the stupid I speak of. Ty had never been to the Island which is why he asked "which airport do I fly into - Vancouver or Victoria" and "how long does it take to drive across the island, 1hr?" His ignorance made the prospects of us having a swell time much higher.

We only had 2 days so the pressure was on. Its a curious thing how when entertaining guests we're willing to do all sorts of amazing things we don't ever seem to do on our own, when its just us. We started by canoeing in the Ocean. As we set out Ty asked if I had ever done this before (not that he was nervous). I said yes because I had been canoeing just not exactly here, in the unpredictable and often dangerous Ocean. 2 hours later we rowed back in having been entertained by a curious sea lion, passing jelly fish and splendid views. We also managed to talk about our women and how lucky they are. I mean we. We arrived home just as the kids were getting back from school. Ty is one of the few truly gifted 20 something with kids that I know and so it took all of 3 min before they loved him as their own. We decided to take this energy on the road and found ourselves swimming, sliding, and chicken fighting in the local pool until supper time. After the kids were in bed we spent the rest of the night laughing ourselves sick at old grad videos and stories from days gone by.

The next (and last) day Ty came with me on a lawn consultation (what a professional) and then by some small miracle we were able to borrow a full set of hockey equipment and play drop in hockey at Fuller Lake arena. I name the arena because rumor has it the Russians will be using it as their Olympic practice facility next month. Greatest player in the world practicing at my local rink. Anyways, hockey is one sport Ty and I had never played together so it was awesome. He's a magician out there with his passes which explains how even I was able to score, conveniently in the final minute. In the afternoon we met Angie's family at EVE's Park, an undiscovered jewel just east of Crofton. There we witnessed 300+ year old Douglas Firs still stretching for the heavens. After, we spent the rest of the day drinking coffee, honey brown and re-watching our stupidity. Later that night we watched Blood Diamond, Ty's favorite movie. Angie and I had never seen it before. WOW best describes Dicaprio's performance and the film's message. Conflict free diamonds folks, when buying, always make sure.

Ty left the next morning having recieved a full Island Experience. Aquaintances are dime a dozen in this world but great friends are hard to find. Thanks for the visit buddy. See you in the Spring.

John

Friday, January 1, 2010

Don't live a Grisham

A few months back I wrote about my life as a starter. I excel at starting stuff but when it comes to finishing, like the Oilers, I need a lot of work.. I'm already excited about starting a new year, a new decade in fact. 2010. Sounds like such a futuristic year. But its here. Pregnant with possibilities. My mind's already resolving to do... To start.

Get up at 6am. Go to bed at 10. Get lost in the moment. Centre myself. Strengthen my core. Read Dostoyevsky. Run a successful business. Be a family man. Make a difference in my community.

The problem with all these resolutions is unless they're connected to a greater story by February I'll be back on the couch drinking Honey brown and living my life through Jack Shepherd. Donald Miller says he has resolved to no longer make resolutions, instead he' going to live a good story. That makes good sense although part of me wants to just add it to the above list - Live a good story. For Milller, living a good story isn't one more thing we resolve to do but the only thing we do. The list should be defined by the story not vice versa which means as I sit here on January 1, 2010, my focus should not be on making a list but on the kind of story I wish to live. When my great grandchildren hear my story 100 years from now will they be proud? Will they share the story? Will it stay with them, helping to inform their own stories? Or will it be a Grisham? An entertaining yet forgettable read.

Forget that. I'm living a Dostoyevsky.

John

Thursday, December 31, 2009

Seasoned People of Age

Tomorrow begins a new decade, my third. Makes me feel young actually, whatever helps. A local lady just celebrated her 100th birthday. 10 decades. I can't even fathom how much wisdom a person like that has to share. I once heard an author say that the most valuable properties in the world are cemeteries because they contain acres of untapped potential. Damn that's depressing. His point was we should all live in such a way that we die empty having used up ourselves on others.

One of my favorite things to do that I never seem to do (why do we live like that) is sit and listen to seasoned people of age. Having lived through the Great Depression, The Final Solution, and the unpresedented development of mind blowing technology, these people have literally seen everything. Imagine their perspectives, commentary, stories....Why is it that we don't take the time to listen? Do we honestly believe they have nothing to say or are we so busy trying to construct our own stories we don't care to hear theirs?

A few weeks ago, Angie started her first job outside the home in over a decade. NND, is an award winning company that provides listening care to seasoned people of age (SPOA). A few days ago I, along with the kids, had the privelage of seeing Angie in action. We had accompanied her to give Christmas gifts to one of her SPOA's. This particular woman has a reputation for being particularly difficult (8 health care aids have already been chewed up and spit out by her before Angie came along). Seeing Angie interact with her client was a Masters course in human interaction, one that has not escaped the equally difficult son's attention. Last week, the son came to her and expressed through tears that Angie was a God sent, a literal answer to his prayers. He went on to say that in the 2 weeks Angie had cared and most of all listened to his mother, the transformation was incredible. He concluded by saying the family had been planning to switch his mother to government care (half the price) but after seeing how Angie has performed, she's worth the price.

Imagine the transformation that would take place if we all took time to really listen to a seasoned person of age? I think of my remarkable Roberts cousins Kris, Karl, Jeff, Lia and Lori and how even as young teenagers, they talked weekly with Roland Briggs, an elderly man living out his final years alone in a rest home. Such a small gesture, such a meaningful result.

Tomorrow launches a decade that will see more people become SPOA's then ever before in human history. We're talking 80-100 million people - many who have sacrificed their lives so we could enjoy ours. Who is your Roland Briggs? Lets find him/her together and keep human potential above ground. Die empty. Live full.

Happy New Year everyone!

John

P.S. I chose The Brothers Karamazov, JFK and the Unspeakable and God: A Biography for my Christmas books. Also, thanks for the Virgin Birth dialogue. Very interesting.

Saturday, December 26, 2009

Christmas Books

My most excellent brother in law got me a $50 Amazon gift certificate for Christmas. Since then I've whittled away hours trying to decide which 3-4 books I'm going to order. The issue isn't that I don't like books it's I love them a bit too much so choosing just 3 is torture.

Here's my constantly evolving short list:

1. The Brothers Karamazov - Fyodor Dostoyevsky. Once called the greatest novel ever written (Freud) this philosophical classic explores themes of God, Free Will, Morality, Doubt, Faith all set against a backdrop of murder. This one is here to stay.

2. When the Game was Ours - Magic Johnson and Larry Bird. One of the greatest rivalries sports has ever known- in their own words. This magical book has been flying off the shelves. (giggle)

3. God: A Biography. Jack Miles. This important 1996 book exploring the nature of God won the Pulitzer prize for Non Fiction.

4. The First Paul. John Dominic Crossan/Marcus Borg. Crossan and Borg team up once again to rediscover what we think we already know. They did this previous in The Last Week and The First Christmas, two other excellent books. The subtitle of this book is "Rediscovering the Radical Visionary behind Christianity's Conservative Icon." How could I not?

5. JFK and the Unspeakable: Why He Died and Why It Matters. James W. Douglass. I've always been interested in the truth behind the JFK assasination and this new book attempts to answer important questions as well as shed new light on these forgotten events.

These total $74 which means at least one must go. Oh the pain.

In the meantime I loved reading the free Bootstrappers Bible by my business Jesus Seth Godin. I am also just finishing Vonnegut's SlaughterHouse Five and am starting New York by Edward Rutherford, a handsome Christmas gift from my kids. I once read that if a person only read 1 book a week they would only read 3000 books in their lifetime. I was depressed for a week after. So much too read, but who has the time? I'm guessing this list will take me far too long, definitely longer then 1 a week.

John

Monday, December 21, 2009

Virgin Birth

In honor of Christmas I thought I'd pop the questions.....

1. Do you believe Jesus was born of a virgin? Why or Why not?

2. How has this belief changed the way you live?

John

Sunday, December 20, 2009

my life.

i am exsitid for christmas! we have lots of presents. its going to be fun. we didint have a angel for our christmas tree but i made one at school.our christmas tree is about the si ze of my dad my dad is probly 6 feet hes relly tall for me i am only like 3 and a half.by the way i have a brother and sister there names are maddie and ethan my name is alexa .i am 7 my last name is close. each year we get a new decoration this year i got a bird. last year i got a snowman in a snowflake.last year my sister got a girl in a stocking this year my sister got poler bear.i dont no what my brother got last year becouse it broke this year got a ball with mooses on it.each new year we get a new dickens house this year we got a charch.i have a dog named hugo and a cat named clover.

Alexa

Christmas

Christmas is awsome! i cant wait to open all the presents. it will be so exciting! it might even snow on Christmas! my mom is at work she left at 9:am she will be back at 2:pm. Then we will play yahtzee. My dad or my little sister will probably win.

Ethan